When did you last give up?
The last time I felt like just walking away, leaving, giving up wasn’t the last at all. I wouldn’t be human (ok, for clarification on this point, speak with Mrs K.,) I would not be human if I felt that my job, my efforts of encouragement at times fell on deaf ears as the recipient of my attentions paid more eye contact to the infernal device or the to-do list than to what I was contributing to the current crisis.
I get it. We all feel ‘defeated’ at times. There’s a lot distraction ‘out there’ today, and so it’s normal to feel ignored, not heard amongst the cacophony.
Blank expressions do happen, people do miss those predetermined goals we’ve settled on because other stuff gets in the way and so when that realisation of being second choice hits home, our response to this can often be negative … ‘whatever, that’s me, I’m done, had enough’… it’s that assumption when we feel that ‘it’ (whatever that ‘it’ is) simply doesn’t appear to be working’ and we just want to call it quits, throw in the towel, be done with ‘it,’ finito …
In extraordinary times, what do passionate people do? We certainly don’t give in to market forces, we don’t give up.
We connect with those closest to us, we continue with our own stuff and we move on. Having slept, we find that miraculously, ‘the house’ is back in order with a solution. Some kind of solution is found and pick up the pieces.
That’s just the way of us humans. Agreed?
We step back, accept our failings, we raise the flag of surrender (for today!) and move on. We talk, we mull and proceed with the next one, other stuff.
So, what do we gain from the repetition of having lost?
What do we need to remind ourselves of if we’re not doing so already?
Where is the payoff for getting up again and going again and keeping at it? It’s tough times just now, I get it.
We understand the challenges of ‘just now,’ so knowingly we put those disappointments down to experience, put them behind us, we think again and start over.
Experience is the lesson from loss. Experience is the reward for any failure.
P.S. Let me know how you contend with disappointments in business, I’d be very happy to hear from you!