Some really missed the point when we discussed the ‘being helpful’ post just recently … they missed the referral pointer, or maybe it was just my way of ‘engagement’ that may have confounded the issue?
The issue of being really helpful …
So a friend or colleague have a need?
To me – and I know this is right for many – it’s just not about offering to help – we learn this when looking for referral. It’s knowing how we can help – in a meaningful way.
Sure, it’s great when someone suggests:
‘I’ll help, what is it you want me to do?’
Although, isn’t it so much better when that same someone offers support this way:
‘I”d like to help, let me take care of that for you.’
So what!? I hear you say.
At least I’ve offered – it’s always welcome isn’t it? Besides, it may lead to referral …
What I’m trying to suggest here is … ‘being helpful’ is about spending time, connecting, understanding and relating to the needs of others. Most of us are not even aware of what it is we need help with!
A real friend (someone who knows you well) just may be able to offer a solution and be really helpful simply because they have taken the time to get to know you well enough.