I spent my early youth fending for myself. My mother and father split up when I was twelve years old, leaving my mum to bring up four kids. Poor mum, we kids surely test her wits!
I say ‘poor mum’ although she never complained and ensured we all had opportunity for learning and fun. If we kids needed something, we asked.
If you don’t ask, you don’t get …
Since those early days, I’ve always believed that if I was in need, I should go out and find it by asking for help. Rarely do we meet a mind reader who can conjure up our needs without sharing a conversation, do we?
I do understand that some people find it difficult to ask. I see it first-hand in my role as host of The Weekly Biz. I’m supporting clients through encouragement.
Some of my pals are terrified at the very thought of asking for help … apprehensive when seeking that important special something that would further their business and therefore the well-being.
Perhaps the bigger ask is scarier than the small favour?
Back in the day … asking for help was seen by many as rude, it was impolite to ask a favour or burden someone with our needs.
Times have changed.
You cannot buy referrals at the local store. Some try bribery while there are those who promise all sorts of business favours in return for introductions “… if you help me, I’ll … etc, etc. ” It’s no wonder that for years, networking picked up bad press.
You know, it’s all in the way we do it!
I’m glad to say things have improved big time. These days most new entrepreneurs understand that it’s good to share face to face. It’s a human thingy to talk with another, sharing emotion, knowledge, it’s empowering. It’s great for the self confidence as well.
Through familiarity, we relax, life is easier, we’re empowered to be specific, giving colleagues the opportunity to help when they smile, asking ‘How can I help?’
We need to empower our mates!
Many people spend their time networking by describing what they do. The same introduction every time we meet up, it’s ‘I’m busy just now with this and that, keeping customers happy with stuff … when more importantly, we should be introducing that most important denominator – you/me/ourselves.
Everyone is busy talking busy, so let’s talk about us.
By sharing with our friends, introducing our personal story we’re cultivating important relationships.
Trust is developed as we all understand that people buy from people.
Ask your friends …
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