The topic of conversation was anger. How does anger it affect you? Is there an emotional outburst or is it more an affront to your mental or emotional well-being?
The question came up at my regular yoga class with Harsha Moore. We weren’t expecting the question and there was some coaxing before the answers came.
‘I like to create space when angry, I spend time in nature, try and be calm.’ came a response.
Someone else mentioned that he would move to seek a room where he was able to vent his anger – strike out and shout!
There was an elderly lady (who lived alone) who liked to chant when upset. Speaking to God for reassurance. Another mentioned she found comfort in talking to friends when angry or upset.
I thought to myself for a minute, trying to recall when I was last upset and angry …
Some time ago during a network meeting someone disagreed with a particular comment. They declared their objection and delivered their views. As much as I tried to placate her, she became more antagonistic even as I offered appeasement.
I’m not usually someone who offers a knee-jerk reaction to criticism. Today was no different. I listened, heard her objections and offered others in the room their ‘chance’ to comment.
One or two were willing to share their opinion … although it was obvious most felt uncomfortable with what they could see as confrontation. The ambience had changed. We experienced both a mental and physical assault that affected the energy, we had flat-lined.
We’re all very different in how we react to objections, aren’t we?
A little later in the day, my wife asked if I was OK.
It was unlike me not to share what had happened earlier in the day. Today was different though. I had pushed the earlier meeting aside, buried it. I thought no more about it until Sue prompted conversation. This was when I had to admit I felt drained, very tired.
Come on, let’s go for a walk Charlie, bring Dusty (our beloved mutt) and let’s talk …
Confrontation of any kind causes us stress in different ways. I’ve found that by regular networking, having the opportunity to converse … discuss challenges, and feel how these affect us all while addressing where the pain may be. Networking can be a wonderful antidote to our ills.
For me, networking offers a far better option than locking myself in a room for a good shout at an inanimate object!
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