Your story?

So, what’s your story?

How do you, stick in the mind?

All around us media often appears full of ‘stuff’ that’s intended ~ just for you ~ right at those ‘peak times,’ perhaps that ‘stuff’ hits you just before you jump in the car and head off to the office? Over the car radio or during lunch break, perhaps the commute home maybe?

Everywhere there are stories to stick in your face so that it’s stuck in your mind.

So, the way I see it being sticky can be useful if we intend to be successful in business life. Business/life. They’re closely aligned, right?

Think about how people remember you. What do they recall of you when next you catch up or more importantly when they meet up with mutual friends at the regular network soirée?

Being a witness to this conversation, would the conversation be something you’d expect? Are you being remembered as being the best that you can be?

The thing is, every interaction we have with someone leaves an impression and it’s sometimes a lasting one. So for me (I know this is also true for many of my close friends,) it’s important that MY STORY is a faithful representation of what others expect of me each time we meet up.

Why? Think of YOU as your own mini media outlet.

‘What?’ I hear you say.

Just hang on a minute, bear with me for a second …

It’s true. What kind of sticky are you? What stories do you conjure, what memories evoked, how do people see you in their life? It’s simply the same as that current ‘hot branded’ company vying for your time and attention even before you’ve ordered the best-ever morning coffee and … the cake!

Showing kindness on a regular basis is important. Agreed.?

Love? That’s a no-brainer for me also, but in today’s ‘circus’ of life … if we are to really embrace the power of relationships, affinity and trust let’s leave the right messages out there.  Better still, let’s ensure our closest allies have every chance of passing on the definitive message of how YOU and your story should be remembered.

Writers block

Writing for leisure should be an enjoyable experience, an outlet where you can express your own personal views and tell a story or two.

Ian had reached a hiatus to his latest manuscript and decided to ‘down tools’ for a bit so I ‘put the kettle on.’

Working with a new author can be rewarding, it can be demanding, even exhausting at times. Living with the highs and inevitable lows, Ian is no different to myself and a ‘million’ other’s when personal expectation and the dreaded ‘creative block’ meet.

His first words to me as I placed our current favourite brew on the table in front of him went something like:

‘I really thought it would be a whole lot easier, it’s been almost eight months BUT I just cannot figure out where to go here …’

My reply was aimed at consolation … take a break Ian, go for a stroll, smell the roses, meet some people …drink more tea!

I explained to Ian that personally I’d found it was no good worrying about pursuing a solution (which in this case was a new chapter) and that really great things happen when we take the ‘load off’ and allow some freethinking to happen. We push too hard and tend to compound the problem, I suggested.

‘I’ll never get this finished, I need to find some inspiration.’ replied Ian.

Tea didn’t seem to be working.

‘It’s the same with any creative process.’ I continued.

Allow inspiration to find you. Write like you are on holiday.

Sure, we set high standards for ourselves when assessing whether our existing draft is any good, so make a change if it’s necessary or perhaps take time to prepare an alternative storyline. Most importantly though, at some point leave the table and enable the creative influences that initially inspired you, to return.

Song writing is the same. We start with a line, a story and there is a natural flow, you work with a melody and come back with it to the story when the time is right.

Take some time. This is your work. There is no deadline on quality, no specific time for ‘done.’

Take all the time that you need to be satisfied, be content. We are not out to please the critics, but to please ourselves.