Referral tip No. 6

Some really missed the point when we discussed the ‘being helpful’ post just recently … they missed the referral pointer, or maybe it was just my way of  ‘engagement’ that may have confounded the issue?

The issue of being really helpful …

So a friend or colleague have a need?

To me – and I know this is right for many – it’s just not about offering to help – we learn this when looking for referral.  It’s knowing how we can help – in a meaningful way.

Sure, it’s great when someone suggests:

‘I’ll help, what is it you want me to do?’

Although, isn’t it so much better when that same someone offers support this way:

‘I”d like to help, let me take care of that for you.’

So what!? I hear you say.

 At least I’ve offered  – it’s always welcome isn’t it? Besides, it may lead to referral …

What I’m trying to suggest here is … ‘being helpful’ is about spending time, connecting, understanding and relating to the needs of others. Most of us are not even aware of what it is we need help with!

A real friend (someone who knows you well) just may be able to offer a solution and be really helpful simply because they have taken the time to get to know you well enough.

OK, that’s cleared that little referral conundrum (hasn’t it?) or is this something I need to spend more time and coffee with?

Published by charlie kenny

I love the coast and in particular, the area in which I live, the North East of England. It's an uncomplicated life, for the past ten years I've been away from the 'big smoke' and I consider the decision to relocate my business to the country has been the best move of my career. I write and have a lifetime of experience in publishing and personal development, I consider myself a specialist in helping my clients with memoirs - that could be a biography, or simply bringing a diary to life. I tend not to advertise my business, word of mouth has always been kind so it's no surprise that I do spend a couple of days per week networking. Peer collaboration can be very rewarding. Therefore if you'd like to join me any Wednesday midday or Thursday morning coffee, please get in touch, I'd love to meet you and perhaps help in any way possible. Thank you for stopping by the website. engage, develop, grow ... with Go! charliekenny@live.co.uk

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